Kontac

So I been reading some posts and heard from some women about not being able to be in a relationship that had bad sex. So my question is:

How does one go about getting better?

Spreasheets? Cue cards? Magazines?

babys_got_blue_eyes

Good question!

One can improve by learning to read the signs of their partner. Is she positioning herself so you have better access to her, either making areas of her body more accessible or is she pressing up on you or the obvious placing of your hands on specific areas of her body? If she is, she likes you and what you're doing so keep doing it and keep listening to and reading her. Also, let her show you how and what she likes and don't be of the attitude that you don't want to be told. If your desire is truly to fulfill her desire, you'll be grateful she's even bringing you up to speed on what make her tick tick tick and go boom!

For me, the bad sex came when the guys confidence in himself in general was on the low side so work on building that up but stay away from getting too cocky because that's a general turn off in the love making department. I'm of the opinion that when a man is in tune with his partner and not all about how it feels to just him, it'll be a positive experience.

This should prove to be an interesting thread :)

miss_jayhawk

The thing about sex is that even when its bad, its still sort of awesome, because its sex, you know?

I think the only way someone would be what I called "bad" is if he was just totally selfish. If I am paying attention to what he wants, and trying to make him happy, I expect reciprocation. So, even if someone was great, if in the bedroom he was only out for himself, I dont think thats something I would be interested in continuing.

I think the way someone treats their partner in the bedroom is really an extension of how they treat them in life. When someone is only interested in their own pleasure in the bedroom, how long before how they feel is all that matters in the other rooms of the house, you know?

It takes awhile to learn your partners spots and the little tricks that make them happy. I can take the time for a partner that can take the time for me, selfishness is the only thing I cant work with.

Leon Noel

If they need spreadsheet OR cue cards, they might be PAST the 'getting help' stage.

But magazines could help , fitness fashion or XXX ones, to name a few ,have articles on working to make your sex life better. Use the articles as a guide or cliff notes & use some of your own techniques & BINGO!!!
Another thing thatcan work is the mindset of the partner can make the sex better. Lose the stress or 'diffuculty' that they are having,he/she can get into it much better & will be much appealing & joyful !! Everybody knows (hopefully) that sex is a physical event but some forget that there is a mental aspect to make it interesting!!!

(Kontac, i dont know if u wanted just women to asnwer your question, but i wanted to put in my $0.02 [ two cents] on this )

markN

Kontac, you are what you are - no instruction book will help YOU!

HotBBW27

The only thing I can say is WOW! TMI Kontac...lol

Kontac

I was reading some posts so I wanted to throw this question out there.

btw, this isn't about me-I got mad chess moves!

Angela

Angela's Simplified Guide to Better Sex

1. Leave the ego outside the bedroom (or whatever room you are in.. >.>) and be willing to believe there is room for improvement.

2. Talk about sex. Be vocal about your fantasies and what things you might like to try and try to keep an open mind about your partners ideas and fantasies.

3. Pay attention to what your partner does to you... chances are they like those things themselves. Remember that your partner has a body that consists of more than just your typical hot zones. There is an entire body to touch and explore... it isn't just about YOUR favorite parts to touch and explore... learn what parts they want you to touch.

mant326

uglykane

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