Why relationships and sex are better with big girls

rwookiee · February 5th, 2010, 02:03 PM

So, I was chatting with friends last weekend about this site and they were asking me about why I like bigger girls. Well, here is my breakdown and I'd like others to comment.

I don't like big girls because of a fetish. I like big girls because they're soft in all the right places. BBWs are larger in all the right places and they're better lovers because they are rough when they want to be rough and they're also tender and soft when you want to be romantic. I love being able to hug someone with substance and to not feel like I'm going to break her when I really need a good squeeze. I love being able to put my arms around her waste and have it feel soft and warm. Its unfortunate to say this, but bbws are always better in relationships because most have had their hearts broken by shallow people and thus they're careful with your feelings and they're always generous with their hearts. BBWs are always nice to lean back against because they're soft and they snuggle well for the same reason. Also, it feels good to be naked with a bbw because they have a lot more soft skin to touch.

Anyway, I could go on and on.

laurie479 · February 5th, 2010, 05:07 PM

Originally Posted by rwookiee

Its unfortunate to say this, but bbws are always better in relationships because most have had their hearts broken by shallow people and thus they're careful with your feelings and they're always generous with their hearts

I like your post but find this section a bit disturbing. I think its definitly overgeneralizing and really just sounds like "they're lucky you like them, so they won't cause you any trouble". I don't know if that's how you intended it, but that's how it comes off. I have actually never had my heart broken by someone bc of my size...I could just be in "a mood" and overreacting

My bad if I am, but I just hate that mantra.

sweetpinkpearl · February 5th, 2010, 06:38 PM

Originally Posted by laurie479

I like your post but find this section a bit disturbing. I think its definitly overgeneralizing and really just sounds like "they're lucky you like them, so they won't cause you any trouble". I don't know if that's how you intended it, but that's how it comes off. I have actually never had my heart broken by someone bc of my size...I could just be in "a mood" and overreacting My bad if I am, but I just hate that mantra.

Laurie it kinda sounded that way to me too, but I do believe he was extolling all the great qualities of a bbw. If I ever get the feeling someone feels sorry for me cuz of my size, I have to turn my back...I am a strong, confident, independent woman and am very happy with who I am. Don't ever feel like you are doing me a favor by speaking to me or showing me attention...anyway, I rant LOL All in all, I don't think that was his intentions LOL

rwookiee · February 5th, 2010, 07:30 PM

I completely did not mean it to come off that way. I've had a few friends (bigger girls) who have had some pretty crappy luck. I apologize for the over-generalization. :-( I have nothing but compliments.

markN · February 5th, 2010, 08:04 PM

Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap!

I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze!

sweetpinkpearl · February 5th, 2010, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by markN

Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap!

I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze!

Not over analyzing LOL If you read my last sentence I did say I didn't think those were his intentions...just reading it quick, you start to say WTF...but taking it as a whole, I do believe he was sincere.

laurie479 · February 5th, 2010, 09:51 PM

Originally Posted by markN

Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap!

I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze!

Oh my Mark!! I think the post was great and I do believe I said I don't think it was his intention

He seems like a sweetheart to me!!

rick ross · February 5th, 2010, 10:22 PM

Really interesting article on relationships on campus now that there are more women going to college than men. I agree with most of it except the victim part. Sometimes it is nice to kick back and not have to do anything. Notice I said sometimes.
On College Campuses, a Shortage of Men - NYTimes.com

peppa_labaja · February 6th, 2010, 02:48 AM

No offense taken. I think your post is just lovely and holds a lot of truth. Being plus size we have all experienced some level of negativity. It does not have to be from a man, it could be anyone. I think that does make you more sensitive to a degree. Our life experiences softens us towards others and that's a good thing! I wish I could find someone who felt this way about me...

Curvaceous Flirt · February 6th, 2010, 08:17 AM

Originally Posted by rick ross

Really interesting article on relationships on campus now that there are more women going to college than men. I agree with most of it except the victim part. Sometimes it is nice to kick back and not have to do anything. Notice I said sometimes.
On College Campuses, a Shortage of Men - NYTimes.com

"Thanks to simple laws of supply and demand, it is often the women who must assert themselves romantically or be left alone on Valentine’s Day, staring down a George Clooney movie over a half-empty pizza box. "

Thanks to this little fact here when you go to a BBW dance(doesn't matter the location) is the reason I stay out of the BBW community. It's impossible to find a guy on a dating site, at a dance, or anywhere else that the fat community congregates where he hasn't hooked up with or dated any number of the girls. Also the women are super aggressive and men don't want to act like men anymore. They don't want to be the pursuers which is actually in their nature. Women are over aggressive, guys get what they want all up front with no effort on their parts at all, and lose interest about as fast as they would watching a romantic comedy.

rwookiee · February 6th, 2010, 10:12 AM

I don't typically find BBW events to be full of women that are super aggressive. In fact, I think I find that the BBW community has a lot of women who are confident in themselves and know what they want. They know that they're in a situation where there are plenty of men around who appreciate them and they are more willing to let men come to them.

Personally, I find it a point of pride, as a male, to do the pursuing myself. The chase is the fun part! I'm not involved in the BBW community because I just want to hook up easily or because I get around. I'm also not going to pretend that there aren't guys out there who come here because they feel it may be easy to get a woman. Asking a woman out and getting excited to see if she'll say yes are all part of the whole fun of dating. Also, it's cool when you make someone's day when you tell them that you like them. So, I'm just here to tell you that not all guys who are involved in the BBW community are just looking to find women who chase them.

Curvaceous Flirt · February 6th, 2010, 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by rwookiee

I don't typically find BBW events to be full of women that are super aggressive. In fact, I think I find that the BBW community has a lot of women who are confident in themselves and know what they want. They know that they're in a situation where there are plenty of men around who appreciate them and they are more willing to let men come to them.

Personally, I find it a point of pride, as a male, to do the pursuing myself. The chase is the fun part! I'm not involved in the BBW community because I just want to hook up easily or because I get around. I'm also not going to pretend that there aren't guys out there who come here because they feel it may be easy to get a woman. Asking a woman out and getting excited to see if she'll say yes are all part of the whole fun of dating. Also, it's cool when you make someone's day when you tell them that you like them. So, I'm just here to tell you that not all guys who are involved in the BBW community are just looking to find women who chase them.

Well I have to disagree with you there. There is always a higher majority of women over men at any of these events, chat rooms, websites etc... It is always stacked in favor of the men. I've been to NY, Stamford, MA, and CT and You always have 5 women for 1 guy that goes. Now, take away the men that women would not be interested in because these guys cannot get it together with making themselves attractive to the opposite sex, and then also take away the guys that go there with their girlfriends and then that makes the ratio of the dating pool go even higher out of wack.

I'm not saying that the guys are "looking" for the women to chase them. LOL I just watched millionaire matchmaker and I am going to quote her. I'm saying they have been conditioned this way.

"You cannot put a hunter male on the couch, then keep feeding him from the plate and expect him to get up off his ass and hunt".

misspatty232 · February 6th, 2010, 01:40 PM

[quote=Curvaceous Flirt;38239Thanks to this little fact here when you go to a BBW dance(doesn't matter the location) is the reason I stay out of the BBW community. It's impossible to find a guy on a dating site, at a dance, or anywhere else that the fat community congregates where he hasn't hooked up with or dated any number of the girls. Also the women are super aggressive and men don't want to act like men anymore. They don't want to be the pursuers which is actually in their nature. Women are over aggressive, guys get what they want all up front with no effort on their parts at all, and lose interest about as fast as they would watching a romantic comedy.[/QUOTE]

although this is a little off topic... i agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY!!!!!!!! this has been my observation and experience over the last 3+ yrs of being in the bbw community. but its better than not having a community, it has just changed how i interact within the bbw world. this has been the biggest wakeup call! i started with the feeling "oh my, alll these men LOVE bbws and i feel so at home/safe/free..." to(when things are at their worst) "this is just a super-sized version of the thin world's crappy dating scene only its worse cuz there arent any other options for bbws"

and i think the original post was lovely...

miss_jayhawk · February 6th, 2010, 02:20 PM

I thought the original post was lovely too, and very sweet.

rick ross · February 7th, 2010, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by misspatty232

although this is a little off topic... i agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY!!!!!!!! this has been my observation and experience over the last 3+ yrs of being in the bbw community. but its better than not having a community, it has just changed how i interact within the bbw world. this has been the biggest wakeup call! i started with the feeling "oh my, alll these men LOVE bbws and i feel so at home/safe/free..." to(when things are at their worst) "this is just a super-sized version of the thin world's crappy dating scene only its worse cuz there arent any other options for bbws"

and i think the original post was lovely...

Well you should talk about the flip side as well. There are many men who go to these dances who are the flavor of the month for women as well. Marriage, good luck. The women here don't want to get married. Many of them are single moms who were married who drop their kids off with their ex and have sex on the weekend. Very few marriages have happened from these events since I have been going for three years. This is playtime for adults. The parties at bbw are fun, people dance and they are all ages. This is good. There are only a few really good clubs in NYC where people really dance. Sat night the crowd is young. During the week older people go out. As far as meeting people you can everwhere though. On the train bus, Starbucks etc. Don't feel bad, even in hollywood people can't find someone and they have everything (money , some power and good looks). They are lucky if their marriage lasts two years.

February 5th, 2010, 02:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
rwookiee Member Posts: 9 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts My Mood:	Why relationships and sex are better with big girls So, I was chatting with friends last weekend about this site and they were asking me about why I like bigger girls. Well, here is my breakdown and I'd like others to comment. I don't like big girls because of a fetish. I like big girls because they're soft in all the right places. BBWs are larger in all the right places and they're better lovers because they are rough when they want to be rough and they're also tender and soft when you want to be romantic. I love being able to hug someone with substance and to not feel like I'm going to break her when I really need a good squeeze. I love being able to put my arms around her waste and have it feel soft and warm. Its unfortunate to say this, but bbws are always better in relationships because most have had their hearts broken by shallow people and thus they're careful with your feelings and they're always generous with their hearts. BBWs are always nice to lean back against because they're soft and they snuggle well for the same reason. Also, it feels good to be naked with a bbw because they have a lot more soft skin to touch. Anyway, I could go on and on.

February 5th, 2010, 05:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
laurie479 ~RazzleDazzle~ Location: Derry Posts: 815 Blog Entries: 4 Thanks: 9 Thanked 7 Times in 4 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by rwookiee Its unfortunate to say this, but bbws are always better in relationships because most have had their hearts broken by shallow people and thus they're careful with your feelings and they're always generous with their hearts I like your post but find this section a bit disturbing. I think its definitly overgeneralizing and really just sounds like "they're lucky you like them, so they won't cause you any trouble". I don't know if that's how you intended it, but that's how it comes off. I have actually never had my heart broken by someone bc of my size...I could just be in "a mood" and overreacting My bad if I am, but I just hate that mantra.

February 5th, 2010, 06:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
sweetpinkpearl ~Pink~ Location: Groton Posts: 1,032 Thanks: 2 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by laurie479 I like your post but find this section a bit disturbing. I think its definitly overgeneralizing and really just sounds like "they're lucky you like them, so they won't cause you any trouble". I don't know if that's how you intended it, but that's how it comes off. I have actually never had my heart broken by someone bc of my size...I could just be in "a mood" and overreacting My bad if I am, but I just hate that mantra. Laurie it kinda sounded that way to me too, but I do believe he was extolling all the great qualities of a bbw. If I ever get the feeling someone feels sorry for me cuz of my size, I have to turn my back...I am a strong, confident, independent woman and am very happy with who I am. Don't ever feel like you are doing me a favor by speaking to me or showing me attention...anyway, I rant LOL All in all, I don't think that was his intentions LOL

February 5th, 2010, 07:30 PM	#4 (permalink)
rwookiee Member Posts: 9 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls I completely did not mean it to come off that way. I've had a few friends (bigger girls) who have had some pretty crappy luck. I apologize for the over-generalization. :-( I have nothing but compliments.

February 5th, 2010, 08:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
markN I like fast women and beautiful cars! Location: Manchester Posts: 685 Thanks: 1 Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap! I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze!

February 5th, 2010, 08:53 PM	#6 (permalink)
sweetpinkpearl ~Pink~ Location: Groton Posts: 1,032 Thanks: 2 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by markN Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap! I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze! Not over analyzing LOL If you read my last sentence I did say I didn't think those were his intentions...just reading it quick, you start to say WTF...but taking it as a whole, I do believe he was sincere.

February 5th, 2010, 09:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
laurie479 ~RazzleDazzle~ Location: Derry Posts: 815 Blog Entries: 4 Thanks: 9 Thanked 7 Times in 4 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by markN Geez women, he says something nice and still gets crap! I thought his post was nice and sincere. Don't over analyze! Oh my Mark!! I think the post was great and I do believe I said I don't think it was his intention He seems like a sweetheart to me!!

February 5th, 2010, 10:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
rick ross Active Member Location: Boston Posts: 84 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Really interesting article on relationships on campus now that there are more women going to college than men. I agree with most of it except the victim part. Sometimes it is nice to kick back and not have to do anything. Notice I said sometimes. On College Campuses, a Shortage of Men - NYTimes.com

February 6th, 2010, 02:48 AM	#9 (permalink)
peppa_labaja Senior Member Location: Bergen Cty. Posts: 328 Thanks: 4 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls No offense taken. I think your post is just lovely and holds a lot of truth. Being plus size we have all experienced some level of negativity. It does not have to be from a man, it could be anyone. I think that does make you more sensitive to a degree. Our life experiences softens us towards others and that's a good thing! I wish I could find someone who felt this way about me...

February 6th, 2010, 08:17 AM	#10 (permalink)
Curvaceous Flirt A.K.A. Nicole Location: Troy Posts: 50 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 1 Post	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by rick ross Really interesting article on relationships on campus now that there are more women going to college than men. I agree with most of it except the victim part. Sometimes it is nice to kick back and not have to do anything. Notice I said sometimes. On College Campuses, a Shortage of Men - NYTimes.com "Thanks to simple laws of supply and demand, it is often the women who must assert themselves romantically or be left alone on Valentine’s Day, staring down a George Clooney movie over a half-empty pizza box. " Thanks to this little fact here when you go to a BBW dance(doesn't matter the location) is the reason I stay out of the BBW community. It's impossible to find a guy on a dating site, at a dance, or anywhere else that the fat community congregates where he hasn't hooked up with or dated any number of the girls. Also the women are super aggressive and men don't want to act like men anymore. They don't want to be the pursuers which is actually in their nature. Women are over aggressive, guys get what they want all up front with no effort on their parts at all, and lose interest about as fast as they would watching a romantic comedy.

February 6th, 2010, 10:12 AM	#11 (permalink)
rwookiee Member Posts: 9 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls I don't typically find BBW events to be full of women that are super aggressive. In fact, I think I find that the BBW community has a lot of women who are confident in themselves and know what they want. They know that they're in a situation where there are plenty of men around who appreciate them and they are more willing to let men come to them. Personally, I find it a point of pride, as a male, to do the pursuing myself. The chase is the fun part! I'm not involved in the BBW community because I just want to hook up easily or because I get around. I'm also not going to pretend that there aren't guys out there who come here because they feel it may be easy to get a woman. Asking a woman out and getting excited to see if she'll say yes are all part of the whole fun of dating. Also, it's cool when you make someone's day when you tell them that you like them. So, I'm just here to tell you that not all guys who are involved in the BBW community are just looking to find women who chase them.

February 6th, 2010, 11:14 AM	#12 (permalink)
Curvaceous Flirt A.K.A. Nicole Location: Troy Posts: 50 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 1 Post	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by rwookiee I don't typically find BBW events to be full of women that are super aggressive. In fact, I think I find that the BBW community has a lot of women who are confident in themselves and know what they want. They know that they're in a situation where there are plenty of men around who appreciate them and they are more willing to let men come to them. Personally, I find it a point of pride, as a male, to do the pursuing myself. The chase is the fun part! I'm not involved in the BBW community because I just want to hook up easily or because I get around. I'm also not going to pretend that there aren't guys out there who come here because they feel it may be easy to get a woman. Asking a woman out and getting excited to see if she'll say yes are all part of the whole fun of dating. Also, it's cool when you make someone's day when you tell them that you like them. So, I'm just here to tell you that not all guys who are involved in the BBW community are just looking to find women who chase them. Well I have to disagree with you there. There is always a higher majority of women over men at any of these events, chat rooms, websites etc... It is always stacked in favor of the men. I've been to NY, Stamford, MA, and CT and You always have 5 women for 1 guy that goes. Now, take away the men that women would not be interested in because these guys cannot get it together with making themselves attractive to the opposite sex, and then also take away the guys that go there with their girlfriends and then that makes the ratio of the dating pool go even higher out of wack. I'm not saying that the guys are "looking" for the women to chase them. LOL I just watched millionaire matchmaker and I am going to quote her. I'm saying they have been conditioned this way. "You cannot put a hunter male on the couch, then keep feeding him from the plate and expect him to get up off his ass and hunt".

February 6th, 2010, 01:40 PM	#13 (permalink)
misspatty232 Firecracker Boom Boom Location: central NY, near syracuse Posts: 764 Blog Entries: 32 Thanks: 41 Thanked 11 Times in 8 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls [quote=Curvaceous Flirt;38239Thanks to this little fact here when you go to a BBW dance(doesn't matter the location) is the reason I stay out of the BBW community. It's impossible to find a guy on a dating site, at a dance, or anywhere else that the fat community congregates where he hasn't hooked up with or dated any number of the girls. Also the women are super aggressive and men don't want to act like men anymore. They don't want to be the pursuers which is actually in their nature. Women are over aggressive, guys get what they want all up front with no effort on their parts at all, and lose interest about as fast as they would watching a romantic comedy.[/QUOTE] although this is a little off topic... i agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY!!!!!!!! this has been my observation and experience over the last 3+ yrs of being in the bbw community. but its better than not having a community, it has just changed how i interact within the bbw world. this has been the biggest wakeup call! i started with the feeling "oh my, alll these men LOVE bbws and i feel so at home/safe/free..." to(when things are at their worst) "this is just a super-sized version of the thin world's crappy dating scene only its worse cuz there arent any other options for bbws" and i think the original post was lovely...

February 6th, 2010, 02:20 PM	#14 (permalink)
miss_jayhawk Luck Favors the Prepared Location: Overland Park Posts: 199 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls I thought the original post was lovely too, and very sweet.

February 7th, 2010, 09:54 AM	#15 (permalink)
rick ross Active Member Location: Boston Posts: 84 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts My Mood:	Re: Why relationships and sex are better with big girls Originally Posted by misspatty232 although this is a little off topic... i agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY!!!!!!!! this has been my observation and experience over the last 3+ yrs of being in the bbw community. but its better than not having a community, it has just changed how i interact within the bbw world. this has been the biggest wakeup call! i started with the feeling "oh my, alll these men LOVE bbws and i feel so at home/safe/free..." to(when things are at their worst) "this is just a super-sized version of the thin world's crappy dating scene only its worse cuz there arent any other options for bbws" and i think the original post was lovely... Well you should talk about the flip side as well. There are many men who go to these dances who are the flavor of the month for women as well. Marriage, good luck. The women here don't want to get married. Many of them are single moms who were married who drop their kids off with their ex and have sex on the weekend. Very few marriages have happened from these events since I have been going for three years. This is playtime for adults. The parties at bbw are fun, people dance and they are all ages. This is good. There are only a few really good clubs in NYC where people really dance. Sat night the crowd is young. During the week older people go out. As far as meeting people you can everwhere though. On the train bus, Starbucks etc. Don't feel bad, even in hollywood people can't find someone and they have everything (money , some power and good looks). They are lucky if their marriage lasts two years.

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