We're not all bad

Double6iX · July 6th, 2010, 07:45 AM

For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear:
I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart.
That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons.
This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

Tygasm · July 6th, 2010, 09:03 AM

Originally Posted by Double6iX

For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear:
I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart.
That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons.
This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

Very well said Aaron.

To add on that note, it's goes for men too.

Don't judge the current woman from the last woman you were with.

Allow that new person in your life to make their own impact on you. For better or worst, allow that chance.

Success333 · July 6th, 2010, 09:24 AM

Thank you for sharing that with us. I needed to read all that today.

Blessings,

Barb

sapphire9468 · July 6th, 2010, 01:35 PM

Originally Posted by Double6iX

For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear:
I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart.
That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons.
This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

^5 to you!
I try so hard not to make each man pay for what a previous ex has done.. just as I would not want to be in that situation with any man I meet. I admit sometimes something will happen and it will set off alarms from previous experiences, but I treat everyone as their own.

Also I would have missed out on some great male friends had I jumped to the conclusion that any man who approaches me is looking to score a notch on his belt.. and I really don't give myself that much credit to think any man who speaks to me wants to sleep with me.

Catrinalu · July 6th, 2010, 02:25 PM

Of course not all men are bad just as not all women are but when you have been burned time and time again it is hard to trust, it is hard to give someone your heart when the person you trusted the most in your life ripped it out of your chest. Unfortunatley, I don't see myself getting into a permanent relationship again(who knows I might eat my words) but I honestly am looking for a true heart which I don't think there are very few out there so I move on and keep all at arms length and I'll date here and there but always have to keep in mind that true love is a rarity and very few people find it and if you do you are soooooo luckily don't ever let it go.

shawnblack · July 6th, 2010, 03:39 PM

I feel u double, men and women don't take the time to get to know the other person but r quick to run u down based on the last man or women I guess some wounds run deep hell I was like that but I had to give my heart time to heal . But don't get mad when u meet. People and fall 4 the okie doke don't blame all men and women lol

DJ KMD · July 6th, 2010, 09:46 PM

Yeah, my ex (one of them) tried to make me pay for all her last boyfriend's crimes. I got sick and tired of that bullshit real quick.

I know it's hard to let things go, but some women push away the decent guys because they're still messed up mentally. I learned to be real careful and listen to what a female says about their last relationship. Sometimes a crate, steroids and even Lou Ferrigno can't get rid of all that baggage.

Guys also need to take some responsibility. If she doesn't seem ready, then well, she's probably not ready.

Double6iX · July 7th, 2010, 06:51 AM

I did have it. I was lucky. I thank her every day for what we had, and I know it made a lot of our friends jealous and envious (there IS a difference.) I'm not talking about that. What I'm talking about are the holier-than-thou or "permanently scarred" types who put the same generalization on everyone they meet because of their one bad experience.
Before Lucia, I was engaged once before. She cheated on me with five guys over a period of 6 weeks. She broke my heart in ways I didn't think possible. The next girl was frigid and inaffectionate, the next one broke up with me and immediately slept with another guy, and the one after her gave me the absolute worst relationship I have ever had. If I had let any of them dictate my future, I never would have gotten together with Lucia, which was the best and smartest thing I've ever done. Let it be a lesson: Just because one hurts you, or three, or five, doesn't mean they all will.
On the same note, what could have happened in your past to make you think you're better than anyone, or egotistical and arrogant enough to think that everyone wants a piece of you? Did you have members of the opposite sex physically fighting over your company? Did a phalanx of admirers constantly kneel to you and act as if you were royalty? No? Then why the ego? Why is it that if someone utters a simple greeting or attempts to make conversation, you think the only thought in their head is "I wonder what this person looks like naked?" There has to be some reason. So cmon, let's hear it.

SHEWOLF74 · July 7th, 2010, 07:11 AM

Originally Posted by Double6iX

For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear:
I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart.
That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons.
This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

Not sure whats going on, but can i say .... this is one of the MOST insightful posts i have read on here....

Double6iX · July 7th, 2010, 08:35 AM

Nuthin goin on. Most of my ranting and raving is done because of something I observe. The people in my family tend to strike up conversation with whomever's around for no apparent reason. It's habit. People talk, we're social animals. If I am someplace and I see you, you leave for a period, come back and see I'm still here, you make a face like "Wow, he's still standing there," and I say "Yup, still here, and I saved your spot for you," it doesn't mean I'm making a play for your attentions. It means I'm social and trying to show a sense of humor. Doesn't mean I'm going to follow you to wherever you're going and try to chat you up the whole way. Trust me, YOU'RE NOT ALL THAT.

July 6th, 2010, 07:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
Double6iX Step By Step, Brick By Brick, No Day But Today Location: East Haven Posts: 91 Thanks: 0 Thanked 99 Times in 20 Posts My Mood:	We're not all bad For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear: I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart. That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons. This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

July 6th, 2010, 09:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
Tygasm A Gasm with a Swagger! Location: East Orange Posts: 334 Thanks: 42 Thanked 69 Times in 30 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Originally Posted by Double6iX For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear: I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart. That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons. This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. Very well said Aaron. To add on that note, it's goes for men too. Don't judge the current woman from the last woman you were with. Allow that new person in your life to make their own impact on you. For better or worst, allow that chance.

July 6th, 2010, 09:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
Success333 The Passion Goddess Is Alive! Location: Central New Jersey, 20 min. From Great Adventure Posts: 343 Thanks: 36 Thanked 28 Times in 20 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Thank you for sharing that with us. I needed to read all that today. Blessings, Barb

July 6th, 2010, 01:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
sapphire9468 SWEET & SASSY Location: pawleys island SC... Previously East Haven CT (always my home) Posts: 100 Thanks: 4 Thanked 23 Times in 11 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Originally Posted by Double6iX For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear: I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart. That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons. This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. ^5 to you! I try so hard not to make each man pay for what a previous ex has done.. just as I would not want to be in that situation with any man I meet. I admit sometimes something will happen and it will set off alarms from previous experiences, but I treat everyone as their own. Also I would have missed out on some great male friends had I jumped to the conclusion that any man who approaches me is looking to score a notch on his belt.. and I really don't give myself that much credit to think any man who speaks to me wants to sleep with me.

July 6th, 2010, 02:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
Catrinalu Sweetie Pie Location: Saint Catharines Posts: 69 Thanks: 4 Thanked 8 Times in 5 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Of course not all men are bad just as not all women are but when you have been burned time and time again it is hard to trust, it is hard to give someone your heart when the person you trusted the most in your life ripped it out of your chest. Unfortunatley, I don't see myself getting into a permanent relationship again(who knows I might eat my words) but I honestly am looking for a true heart which I don't think there are very few out there so I move on and keep all at arms length and I'll date here and there but always have to keep in mind that true love is a rarity and very few people find it and if you do you are soooooo luckily don't ever let it go.

July 6th, 2010, 03:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
shawnblack FACEBOOK THIS BITCH Location: newark Posts: 151 Thanks: 1 Thanked 31 Times in 7 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad I feel u double, men and women don't take the time to get to know the other person but r quick to run u down based on the last man or women I guess some wounds run deep hell I was like that but I had to give my heart time to heal . But don't get mad when u meet. People and fall 4 the okie doke don't blame all men and women lol

July 6th, 2010, 09:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
DJ KMD Bawssse Location: New York Posts: 5 Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 2 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Yeah, my ex (one of them) tried to make me pay for all her last boyfriend's crimes. I got sick and tired of that bullshit real quick. I know it's hard to let things go, but some women push away the decent guys because they're still messed up mentally. I learned to be real careful and listen to what a female says about their last relationship. Sometimes a crate, steroids and even Lou Ferrigno can't get rid of all that baggage. Guys also need to take some responsibility. If she doesn't seem ready, then well, she's probably not ready.

July 7th, 2010, 06:51 AM	#8 (permalink)
Double6iX Step By Step, Brick By Brick, No Day But Today Location: East Haven Posts: 91 Thanks: 0 Thanked 99 Times in 20 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad I did have it. I was lucky. I thank her every day for what we had, and I know it made a lot of our friends jealous and envious (there IS a difference.) I'm not talking about that. What I'm talking about are the holier-than-thou or "permanently scarred" types who put the same generalization on everyone they meet because of their one bad experience. Before Lucia, I was engaged once before. She cheated on me with five guys over a period of 6 weeks. She broke my heart in ways I didn't think possible. The next girl was frigid and inaffectionate, the next one broke up with me and immediately slept with another guy, and the one after her gave me the absolute worst relationship I have ever had. If I had let any of them dictate my future, I never would have gotten together with Lucia, which was the best and smartest thing I've ever done. Let it be a lesson: Just because one hurts you, or three, or five, doesn't mean they all will. On the same note, what could have happened in your past to make you think you're better than anyone, or egotistical and arrogant enough to think that everyone wants a piece of you? Did you have members of the opposite sex physically fighting over your company? Did a phalanx of admirers constantly kneel to you and act as if you were royalty? No? Then why the ego? Why is it that if someone utters a simple greeting or attempts to make conversation, you think the only thought in their head is "I wonder what this person looks like naked?" There has to be some reason. So cmon, let's hear it.

July 7th, 2010, 07:11 AM	#9 (permalink)
SHEWOLF74 IS..... Location: CT SHORELINE Posts: 250 Thanks: 110 Thanked 30 Times in 18 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Originally Posted by Double6iX For all the jaded ones out there, I just want to make it clear: I AM NOT YOUR EX. I haven't cheated on you, beaten you, abused you, abused your kids, treated you badly, ignored you, neglected you, humiliated you, forced myself on you, coerced you, or objectified you. I have never lied to you. I have never forgotten your birthday, your kids' graduation, our anniversary. I have never called you someone else's name. I have never stolen from you or broken your property. I have never ordered you around, commanded behavior from you, or been domineering. I have never yelled at you in the presence of your children. I am not lewd, crude, lascivious, vulgar, or pornographic. I am not inappropriate in front of your kids or your parents. I do not flirt with or make passes at your friends or your sisters. I do not gawp at other girls when we are out. I do not compare you to other women. I have never stood you up for a sports event. I have never ditched you. I have never broken your heart. That being said, YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. You do not know my quirks, my habits, my likes and dislikes, my personality. You do not know my history and all the little events that made me who I am. You do not know my pain, my joy, my nightmares, my dreams, my fantasies, my reality. You do not know my opinions, my stances, my thoughts and ideas. You do not know my tastes or turn-ons. This being the case, WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME TO KNOW MY INTENTIONS OR INTERESTS? NOT EVERY GUY WHO SPEAKS TO YOU IS TRYING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS OR DOWN YOUR SHIRT. A "hello" does not equate "Do I have a chance tonight?" Don't presume to know my intentions. Don't jump to conclusions because you could wind up leaping off a cliff. I AM NOT EVERY MAN. NEITHER IS THE ONE WHO HURT YOU. Just because you were mistreated does NOT mean I mistreat mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. Not sure whats going on, but can i say .... this is one of the MOST insightful posts i have read on here....

July 7th, 2010, 08:35 AM	#10 (permalink)
Double6iX Step By Step, Brick By Brick, No Day But Today Location: East Haven Posts: 91 Thanks: 0 Thanked 99 Times in 20 Posts My Mood:	Re: We're not all bad Nuthin goin on. Most of my ranting and raving is done because of something I observe. The people in my family tend to strike up conversation with whomever's around for no apparent reason. It's habit. People talk, we're social animals. If I am someplace and I see you, you leave for a period, come back and see I'm still here, you make a face like "Wow, he's still standing there," and I say "Yup, still here, and I saved your spot for you," it doesn't mean I'm making a play for your attentions. It means I'm social and trying to show a sense of humor. Doesn't mean I'm going to follow you to wherever you're going and try to chat you up the whole way. Trust me, YOU'RE NOT ALL THAT.

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