Success333

Hi Ample Family,

I need help....please!!

I am in a new relationship and scared I will mess it up. This man is into sharing his feelings up front and tells me all the things a girl loves to hear...how pretty ...how nice I look...how good I smell...etc. I know he
means it and all but my guard is up so I don't get hurt.

He is really into pleasing me and I want to do the same for him. It is just the baby stages and what I call the honeymoon phase...tell me how you get through this stage...questions...

are you upfront about everything from day one??

do you always say what you need in a new relationship that you want to last more than a few dates?

Thanks in advance for helping me out.

hugs
Barb

thatcountryfellow79

i feel you should just enjoy the moment or "honeymoon phase" we are all so caught up sometimes with finding something lasting that we dont even enjoy great MOMENTS when they are upon us. look plan for the future get a 401k or set up an savings account and all that but when it come to love enjoy it when you have it dont set stock in worrying how to keep it cause i hate to break to everyone here life is no fairy tale and happly ever after rarely happens. YEAH i know we have one or two success stories we can all throw out but shyt that dont compare to the 40 dozen or so stories where it hasnt. so again enjoy THE HONEYMOON PHASE milk it for all its worth hell even keep a bit of hope that it dont end but leave it at that

and yeah get a biscuit

sweetpinkpearl

Although I am a big propounder of "honest communication", when you are seeing someone and you are at the"new" stages, basically, you need to ask yourself, "is everything his/her business?" I think countryfellow was right about enjoying the whirlwind and the excitement of seeing someone new. Just be true to yourself, enjoy the fun you two share, and let the road wind where it may.

cpl4fun2636

Keep in mind that EVERY relationship ends in heartbreak until you find the right one... what I mean by that is simply that keeping your guard up to not get hurt only damages the realtionship and perhaps leads to its decline... you must enter each new relationship with a clean slate as if it were your first. This partner must have your trust or it won't work. They are not the person or persons who hurt you in the past, and cannot be punished for others' mistakes.

Now don't take this wrong.. if the signs of misdeeds are there use the wisdom of past experience... but dont assume the misdeeds and treat them as if guilty before there is even a sign.

Success333

OMG you are all the best!!! Thanks so much for sharing with me here.

WOW such words of wisdom from my ample family friends. You all have such great insight into this and I just woke up and realized....

Yes I need to enjoy each moment...be true to my heart...live in there here and now...and know that I can trust again with a new partner and will open my big mouth if I get hurt.

Wish me luck as I travel on the path to relationship heaven again!! lol

XOXO

Barb

sweetpinkpearl

I wish you luck as you travel the path of having a great time with another person...where and where it leads is not the point!! Best of Luck, Barb!

aQTinCT

best of luck to you!

the honeymoon phase is awesome - enjoy the euphoria and the endorphins - (other than quality chocolate and/or intense aerobic classes, it's the only other non-drug induced way that i know of to get such sustained pleasure - lol).

not only that, but the warping of senses is pretty cool, too. for example, if his teeth are coffee-stained, you're clueless - everytime he smiles you hear a "ding" sound and seem to see a diamond star appear and disappear as if he's starring in a crest whitening commercial. and the good thing is, it works two ways, so if you're ever having an offie day (bad hair, the favorite jeans seem not to fit right) - he'll never care - those will be your "issues" - he'll be totally oblivious to them, and just overjoyed to be sharing your company.

remember that you deserve to be happy and enjoy yourself!